1. 2. Discussion of findings 2.1. Shocking facts

1. Introduction

It is likely that anyone might become victim of
domestic violence. In Vietnam, it has been one of the biggest problem that 58%
of women have to suffer recently (Thanh Nien News, 2015, cited in “Domestic
violence in Vietnam”, 2016). “Domestic violence can impact anyone regardless of
their gender, race, age, culture or religion.” (Kanchiputu & Mwale, 2006 ). It
has a variety of forms, namely emotional abuse, physical violence and sexual assault. This
matter is happening due to numerous reasons, but the major cause is lack of
background knowledge about domestic aggression .The problem is worse because of
outdated views. which means in order to Maintaining
happiness in family, women are tolerant and they still
continue to suffer from their husband. Meanwhile, being a bread-maker even, men
seem to treat their partner unfair anytime for unreasonable causes. Moreover,
children who have unforgettable childhood accidentally become victims of
domestic violence in their family. To tackle the problem, it seems to be a
long-term process; however ” it can vary case by case, but we should not keep
silent. Keeping silent is dying” (Beth 
& Brett, 2013 ). It is necessary for victims to have more chances to raise their voice and be paid
more attention from different groups, both neighborhood and local community.
Thus, this essay will provide updated facts, discuss the effects of domestic
violence and suggest efficient ways to protect the victims from this issue.

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2.
Discussion of findings

2.1.
Shocking facts of domestic violence in Vietnam

“For many years almost every Vietnamese woman took
it for granted that unconditional service to men is the natural function, a
required sacrifice, and an expression of self-denial, necessary in the role of
women in the family” (Le, n.d.). Being interviewee in different discussion
forums, a numerous women admit that they are suffering at the hands of their
husbands due to unreasonable understanding of partners in their daily lives.
“Domestic violence is a problem but it is basically a silent problem” (Beth 
& Brett, 2013). Why do women choose silence instead of voice
raising? Not allowed
to make questions, turn it to a normal sentence

According to Dr Nguyen (2016), “some women think
that it is karma and they are suffering for something they did in their past
life”. Traditionally, many women have poor
background and they are likely accepted that it is their destiny whether they
are beaten by their partners. Moreover, a bigger issue in Vietnam society seems
to be the fear of losing dignity. Many women feeling ashamed about what had happen
to them intend to hide it from anyone. After marriage, the happy times end
quickly because they might give their life to the service of their family,
including their husband and children in any circumstances. It seems that women
beaten up daily for many intolerable years make every effort to endure life as
a human punch-bag. To protect victims from violent actions, the government
enacts law which is called “the Law on Gender Equality and the Law on Domestic
Violence Prevention”when???. Source? However,
this problem may be difficult to address, for most women do not know their
rights. In addition, stereo type of Vietnamese women is to stand sacrifices and
hardships. They stand both physical and psychological pain after husband’s
actions in lieu of accusing their husbands of their violent behaviors in order
to avoid family separation and their children.

 

2.2.
Effects of domestic violence

2.2.1.
Women face to domestic abuse

Women who are most at risk for domestic violence have
coped with physical abuse made up by their husbands. It is clearly seen that
the common feature of any situations between male and female is an imbalance of
control and power. Male representing bread-maker in their family still maintain
thinking that their wives do not take care of their families and talk back to
them with their neighbors. ???
I thought mother-in-law does, not really husband

They constantly use witnessed physical actions which
bring about injuries to victims if the victim run into stiff resistance. Besides,
behavior denying essential needs of victims is belonged to physical violence
(cited in Ukessays, 2015)
not ok source.

Men have a tendency to beat their wives and ignore
them when they desire to help them. In some cases, women suffer from sexual
abuse, even by their
spouse who looks like sick man ?????

. Women accidently become winebibber or drug addict
as drugs seem to help them to forget their painful bodies. They would rather repeat
to self-kill by addictions than be slaves of their husbands. Besides, emotional
abuse is likely behavior that threat, intimidation, or the victim’s freedom
limitation. Psychological abuse including conflict action or statement might
affect to human dignity. It is surprising that women question themselves in
many times that the abuse is their fault? The abusers have a tendency to
make efforts to keep victims from contacting with their friends and family. They
deem that the victim could not leave the relationship with them because victims
impossibly rely on anyone except for them. Isolation contributes the victim’s
internal strength damaging and self-defense ability loosing. In many cases,
those women often get several troubles which relates to their emotion. They
tend to have negative thinking and tackle with their problem by suicide. Unexpectedly,
results of numerous studies illustrates that “victims of domestic violence are
more likely to maltreat their children than those who are not abused by their
partners” (cited on
UN 2010). It is worth that they should be received condemnation even though it
is probable that they unintentionally make wounds of their children.

2.2.2.
Children are influenced by domestic violence

Different from Vietnamese women, children are
accidently become consequences of domestic abuse in their families. “41.2%
respondents said that domestic violence affects to the abused child to lose
interest in education” (Kanchiputu
& Mwale, 2016). Sometimes, victimized children go to school late
because they have to do pieces of household work, even they absent from school
due to verbal aggression and
physical injury. Those youngsters could not concentrate on their studies and
often have flashbacks about the abuse (Jaclyn,
n.d.) which is resulted from different misunderstanding of their
parents. Domestic violence also negatively impacts on children’s behavior at
school. It is certain that they use aggression as a way which they might get
what they want. A perhaps obvious the reason why boys tend to become
more aggressive is that girl students consider it is normality at school. In
the majority of cases, children witnessing domestic abuse seem to have less
chance to enjoy their wonderful childhood than others. They often grow up
independently instead of being taken care by their parents. It is probable that
parents should make good example to their children who might follow, but victimized
kids apparently hide their feeling at home and behave as uneducated people in
society. Children are like “a pressure cooker waiting to let out the stream”
(Rebecca, 2011). Certainly, domestic violence results in negative adjustment of
the victim who may find it difficult to trust their partners of their marriage in
the future. They are often more aggressive in any circumstances and they treat
unfairly to their members of family such as verbal abuse and non-verbal abuse. In
many cases, the children grow up being affected by the violence, and sometimes
these scars might have a long-term impact on their lives (Jaclyn, n.d.).